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Weddings are a lot of fun because of all the dancing and laughter, but marriage isn't always easy. There's a lot of work that goes into living "happily ever after," so we wanted to discuss what couples can do to have a good marriage, whether they've been married for years or are just getting married. Follow their advice for a stronger, healthier, and, yes, even more happy relationship. Yes, even happy couples fight. There is no such thing as a happy marriage all of the time. There are ups and downs in all relationships. Happy couples, however, listen to each other's viewpoints, identify when an argument is going off the tracks, and pivot accordingly. In fact, the bad times can help teach you the tools you need to work together effectively. So, just because you and your spouse have a few disagreements or are going through a hard patch doesn't indicate you're in an unhappy marriage. In reality, it's very likely that you're normal. Concentrate on each other's assets. It's not always easy to see past tiny annoyances, and you can even despise your partner at times. But, according to Ellen Chute, LMSW, in order to have a good marriage, you must embrace your partner's qualities and shortcomings and be able to set reasonable expectations. If you're good with numbers, for example, don't get upset if they misbalance the checkbook. Make it your job to set the budget instead. Instead, if cooking is their strong suit, they can handle meal planning. Suzann Pileggi Pawelski, co-author of the book Happy Together, which she co-wrote with her husband James Pawelski, PhD, argues that "using our skills on a regular basis is related with increased well-being." "And we enjoy higher relational happiness when we help our spouse exploit their strengths," she explains. Oprah's Daily has more. Oprah Talks About How Important It Is to Choose Yoursel WATCH: Oprah Winfrey Talks About How Important It Is to Choose Yourself